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MEDIA RELEASE 10 November 2008

Fight your fear of speaking in public on your wedding day - follow these simple tips
Public speaking is feared almost as much as death according to a new survey for online learning program conducted by Newspoll. The research shows that 23 per cent of Australians fear public speaking more than death, compared to 27 per cent who ranked death as their number one fear.

For many Australians the only time they have to make a major speech is on their wedding day. According to public speaking expert Paul Griffiths, the founder of, there are many ways to overcome the debilitating fear. The full program provides participants with many great tools including the following tips:

1. Don't try and be funny if you're not - A wedding is one of life's most symbolic and authentic moments. If you're speaking at a wedding - no matter whether you are the bride, the groom, the best man, a family member - remember the 'authenticity of the moment'. People will remember the sentiment you express long after they've forgotten the joke you tried to force in. Frankly, forget it - unless, of course, you're one of life's natural jokers.

2. Make it easy for speakers - When you ask a family member or a friend to speak at your wedding, give them something to do, a reason to speak. Share the speech list so that they fully understand their role on your special day.

3. Brides - speak up! As a bride, this is a wonderful moment for you to say those heartfelt things like 'thanks' and 'love' to those who've supported you not only in planning your big moment, but right through your early life.

4. Do some preparation - A wedding is a very important occasion so any speakers should jot down some notes beforehand so they don't forget to thank the important people. Although don't write it out word-for-word because you'll be tempted to read it out. See tip number 6.

5. Keep each individual in mind - Treat the wedding guests no matter how many there are as individuals. Any group starts with just one person. Then you add one, then one more and so on. For example, instead of saying 'Good evening all', use 'Good evening to you'. This will appeal a lot more to each individual.

6. Don't rely on notes - when you read notes you will have your eyes down, head down and hands occupied so the wedding guests will not grasp your passion for the subject. If you have prepared properly you will have no need for notes.

7. Maintain your gaze - your eyes are the primary communication device. Try to lock your gaze with each individual guest at least once and do it as early as possible - the first 30 seconds are vital to establish rapport.

8. Use your hands to show passion - your hands help your brain enormously by pulling down ideas and are a great way to stress important messages. Moving your arms and hands helps give words life and helps to add light and shade to the speech.

9. If you're inclined to speak fast, make it precise - there's nothing wrong with speaking a little fast as long as it's done with precision. To do so, emphasise the end of words especially 's' 'ly' and 'ed'. This, in itself, will slow you down without chanting 'I must slow down' in your head.

10. Emphasise adjectives and adverbs - if you feel that your voice is a little flat or monotonal then emphasise the describing words like adjectives and adverbs. It's these words that add colour, zest and oomph. For example, the bride looks beautiful today with the emphasis on 'beautiful'. is a video-based online learning program for people who have to speak in public and want to increase their confidence and motivational ability. It was created by journalist and educator Paul Griffiths who realised that the best way to share his 40 years of experience and extensive knowledge on public speaking to a wide audience was through an online course - available to anyone, anywhere, anytime - online.

The program can cover topics such as management of nerves, basics of planning, selling concepts, moving information to motivation, future orientation, optimal thinking, motivational concepts and so on.

The participant answers 15 qualifying questions before starting the program. Based on those answers, the program then automatically selects about 60 video topics - each one being three minutes long - from a library of more than 200. So, the program is custom-designed to suit every level and all needs, for anybody, anywhere, at anytime - online.

The course is designed to assist beginners and more practised presenters with two options available: Presentation Update Program (PUP), followed by the Executive Suite.

For more information, visit or call (02) 9144 3975.

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For further information please call Kim Larochelle or Nicola Rutzou on (02) 9413 4244.

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